6 sex positions to help you last longer

When aroused, men require sexual stimulation to achieve an orgasm and ejaculate.

Some sex positions are more stimulating for men than others, so they can cause men to finish earlier than they would like to. This includes positions:

• that cause more friction for men
• where the man is in control
• that involve deep penetration, which also causes more friction

One of the main culprits for premature ejaculation is the doggy style position. This is because men have complete control, and it allows for deeper penetration. So, if some of these positions are your go-tos, it may be a sign to switch things up.

Positions where women are in control or involve less stimulation are, therefore, perfect options to help you last longer.

Key insight

Partner control and reduced stimulation are the main factors for delaying ejaculation. This includes positions where your partner controls the pace or depth, or those that require balance and focus.

So, what are the best positions to help you last longer? We’ve got you! Here are 6 sex positions that will help you do just that.

1. Spooning

Spooning your partner is a wholesome and loving way to fall asleep. But did you know that you could spice it up? It involves both of you lying on your side with the man or giver behind as the big spoon.

This is a great position to help you last longer. Penetration isn’t as deep as other positions from behind, so there is less friction on the penis and less sensation for the man.

It is also a great position to hit your partner’s G-spot, so it’s a win-win for both of you.

2. Modified doggy style

While doggy style is one of the main culprits for a quick finish, modified versions of this position can help you last longer.

Instead of your partner being on their hands and knees, there are other versions you can try. Your partner could be lying down flat or with a pillow under their hips.

These alternatives to normal doggy style allow for more shallow penetration, which doesn’t cause as much stimulation.

3. Cowgirl or reverse cowgirl

In these positions, your partner is in charge of the reins.

Cowgirl involves the receiver on top, facing you. Reverse cowgirl involves, as you can imagine, the receiver facing the other way. You could lie completely flat or bend your knees to support them with your legs.

This means your partner can control the tempo and depth and can stop at any time if you get too close. It also means your partner can focus on what they like.

It might be tempting to get carried away, but you should sit back and enjoy the view.

4. Missionary

Missionary is simple, but that doesn't mean it’s boring. In fact, it can be one of the most intimate and romantic positions because you can be really close to your partner.

Missionary is also good because it’s a simple position to adjust your depth and rhythm. Go slow! Sometimes, going slow can feel even better and allows you better control.

5. Seated position

Like the cowgirl positions, you can sit back and enjoy as your partner takes control. You could sit on a chair or at the edge of the bed and have your partner sit on top.

They control the movement, the tempo and the depth, which can stop you from ejaculating too soon. It also means they can pull away more easily if you get too close.

6. Standing position

Why not take things further and try standing up?

Having to balance you and even your partner adds additional elements that distract you, and make it harder to finish too soon.

It also has the extra bonus of feeling super spontaneous and exciting - who says you need to be in a bed to have fun?

As well as trying new positions in the bedroom, there are other self-help tips you can do to help treat premature ejaculation.

It’s normal to feel embarrassed about seeing a doctor, but you shouldn’t. Your doctor is trained to be non-judgmental, unbiased, discreet, and helpful in such situations.

If premature ejaculation is affecting your confidence or quality of life, your doctor can prescribe you clinically-proven treatment options to help you feel more in control.

Dr. Caroline Fontana Lead Prescribing Doctor

You should see your doctor about premature ejaculation if:

• you have tried self-help measures, and nothing has helped
• it is causing you a lot of distress and worry, which is impacting your daily life

It’s also perfectly normal to experience these kinds of problems. Getting advice and treatment is the best way to improve your mental and physical wellbeing.

Prescription treatments

Your doctor can prescribe several treatments to help delay ejaculation.

The most common treatment is selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) like Priligy. They work by increasing serotonin levels, a hormone that has been shown to affect parts of your brain responsible for ejaculation.

Your doctor might also prescribe a numbing cream like lidocaine, which can decrease sensation.

Therapy

Sometimes the underlying cause of premature ejaculation is psychological. It may not seem like it, but talking it through with a therapist can help.

A psychosexual therapist can help you explore any relationship issues with yourself or your partner and how to heal from them.

They can also show you methods to “unlearn” the habit of ejaculating too soon.

In conclusion, changing up positions in the bedroom can help you last longer. Positions like spooning, missionary and cowgirl are good options.

You can also try self-help measures to increase ejaculation time or use thicker condoms to help reduce sensitivity.

If you have tried these things and it doesn’t seem to be working, then you should see your GP. They can give you advice and suggest treatment options to help you get your mojo back.